Breaking
Through the Three Types
When you discover that you have the characteristics
of the three types but want to break through them, what can you
do?
Face Your True Self
The first step you should do is to face your true
self with courage. Think about how many novelists, artists and
musicians are men, then, we understand that men do have different
kinds of emotions. They can have intimate friends, who share the
same interests and support each other. Indeed, if you can realise
your potentials in an area you like, you will certainly live happier.
You Have the Choice
Although you might belong to the three types in
the past, you can choose and learn to be a kind of person you
like. If you wish, you can certainly change yourself through reading,
attending courses, and learning from your experiences.
It is widely recognized now that a person must
have high EQ in order to achieve success. EQ includes five areas
of capabilities, i.e. self-understanding, managing self-emotions,
self-motivation, understanding others' emotions and handling interpersonal
relationship. You may notice that a high EQ person is actually
beyond the three common types of men. In this era, which emphasizes
teamwork, men particularly have to acquire high EQ in order to
be successful.
Find the Balance
The three types are no longer adequate to meet
the demands of the everchanging world. Men have to pay extra effort
to maintain the balance: climbing the social ladder vs. looking
for other life goals, focusing on objects/beliefs vs. establishing
intimate relationships, and upholding a strong and rational image
vs. expressing one's feelings appropriately. In fact, each one
of us has different kinds of needs and concerns. Maintain the
balance is a good way to make us feel satisfied.
Seek Professional Help
If you need someone to help you to break through
the three types, you are most encouraged to seek professional
help other than sharing with your family or friends.
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